V2MOM: A Vision Planning Method That Helps Organizations and People Say No

Over the last few years, I've learned that the more success you encounter, the more likely opportunities get thrown your way. Whether it's in the form of a financial investment, business partnership, or new client relationship, saying no gets more difficult when you're on a roll and you convince yourself that you can accomplish anything despite what your gut tells you. It's only until when things all go to hell then you say to yourself, "Why couldn't I have just said no in the beginning?"

In early 2016, after some big blow ups in my personal and professional life from the previous year, I decided enough was enough. I realized I kept focusing on making goals for the sake of making goals. I also realized I began putting my professional goals over my personal goals, therefore having no work/life balance. I lost my passion for my hobbies like cooking and traveling. This hollow sense of professional and personal purpose could not go on. It was only a matter of time till myself and the organization I led would come crashing down.

Desperately, I went searching for a method that could help me regain my purpose and vision for what I wanted in my life.

After reviewing several vision planning methods, the one that stood out to me the most was the V2MOM alignment method. Made famous by Mark Benoiff of Salesforce, V2MOM is a one page vision planning tool that Salesforce built their whole company strategy on. While most planning tools helps companies understand, implement, and execute their vision, none I found were this short and easy to understand. Not only did I desire simplicity, I needed a vision planning system that quickly helped me make decisions during the easy and tough times.

Although V2MOMs typically appear in organization vision planning (see here on how to do one for your organization), I knew I found a renewed sense of purpose when I began filling out each letter of the acronym. The first step in doing a personal V2MOM for myself helped me define what success means to me and what truly brings me bliss. It then gave me better focus on saying no to opportunities that don't coincide with my vision of success.

A V2MOM plan consists of:

• V for Vision: Your idea of success (what you aspire to live for)
• V for Values: What values, principles, or beliefs are critical to meeting your vision (defining these values should help you say no easier)
• M for Methods: What do you plan to do to reach your vision (think tactics). Be specific as possible.
• O for Obstacles: What obstacles do you anticipate to meeting along the way?
• M for Measurables: How do you measure your progress? How do you plan to overcome the above obstacles? Be specific as possible.

I recommend everyone to create their own V2MOM plan. To be forewarned though, answering the above questions are not easy. They require a lot of thought, clarity, and honesty. However, creating a high level vision plan that can lead to your definition of success is a great reward for some reflection.

So in hopes of inspiring you to write your own V2MOM, I thought I'd share the one I worked on since the beginning of 2016. Before you jump on writing your own though, some pointers to think about:

• Define what success looks like to you when writing out your vision. Don't be pressured to write down what others' definition of success looks like. This vision is unique to you.
• Living and experiencing your vision of success shouldn't just bring you momentary happiness, but longing bliss. Remember, happiness is just a feeling that's pleasurable, bliss is a mindset that makes us feel truly alive. Experiencing your vision should invoke bliss. That's the whole purpose of this V2MOM - to clarify the opportunities that brings you bliss and to pursue them.
• Reevaluate your vision and values regularly. Do they still ring true over time? If so, keep on building the habits that can help you execute your vision of success. If your vision and values change due to various circumstances, I recommend you to relook at your whole V2MOM. Your vision and values should always heavily dictate your methods, obstacles, and measurables.
• Print out your V2MOM and stick it in a place that would be regularly seen by you. It's easy to stay consistent on the good days, but hard as hell to stay consistent on the bad days. Your V2MOM should feel like your inner conscience guiding you to be your best self during the good and the bad.

So how about my personal V2MOM...

“Reevalute your vision and values regularly to gut check your progress.”

Kenny's Personal V2MOM:

Vision: 

• To help more people than I’ve ever met so that I’m able to create opportunities for others that they would never knew they would have otherwise. 

Values:

• Always learning and growing: That I will keep my mind, body, and health happy FIRST by dividing good habits and a thirst to learn.
• Build wealth in the long term: That I will only invest in income growing opportunities with people I love that can be eventually turned into passive income and ownership.
• Be money smart: That I will be habitually financially disciplined and save more than I spend to ensure financial stability for my family.
• Say no frequently: That I will not overcommit myself to the detriment of Laura, my family, and personal friends. Whenever asked to commit, always think to myself, would I be excited to do this next Tuesday? If not, don't say yes.
• Grow with my loved ones: That anything I do in the community, I can do together with my loved ones.
• Celebrate the wins: That I will stop and smell the roses more frequently and enjoy my earnings now rather than later.

Methods:

• Physically: Develop a regimented habitual schedule + diet that keeps me physically healthy that is adaptable to my lifestyle.
• Physically: Encourage others through my various channels to be the best fulfilled version of themselves by pushing me to be the best fulfilled version of myself.  
• Emotionally: Stop myself from working from home to focus on my family and loved ones when I’m away from the office. 
• Spiritually: Meditate for a minimum of 20 minutes a day to clear my mind from outer world distractions.
• Spiritually: Travel to a new country once a year and travel domestically to a new city once a year.
• Mental: Journal everyday to reflect gratitude and spend a minimum of 30 minutes a day reading.
• Mental: Save 40% of income a year and reinvest up to 15% of annual income into current or new passive income opportunities.

Note: My dad always reminded me that human beings are special in that our bodies are made up of four parts: physical, mental, spiritual, and emotional. In my V2MOM, I strive to make strides in each part. It turns out improvements/complications in one part can lead to improvements/complications in another (for example, if I'm physically healthier I also feel emotionally positive about my body image).

Obstacles:

• Tendency to overwork and forget to unplug
• Lack of discipline to maintain healthy daily routines due to stress of career
• Temptation to say yes to opportunities that feel great short term but don't benefit long term
• Unseen emergency expenses

Measurables:

• Physical: Weight loss and energy level/focus improve over 6 months (140-150 pounds)
• Emotional: Increase in financial savings per month due to company doing well and less time worrying about company stability 
• Spiritual: Unplug for an hour a day without any electronics to take the time to recalibrate with the world. Be able to be feel content without any electronics (for example, if I see something beautiful, can I stop and take it in without wanting to post about it on social media?) 
• Mental: Ability to build new positive habits from reassuring myself I own the previous ones (for example, journaling every day along with reading 30 pages a day showed me I can keep adding new habits to build myself as I was able to stick with the last two).

“Remember, happiness is just a feeling that’s pleasurable, bliss is a mindset that makes us feel truly alive. Experiencing your vision should invoke bliss.”

The above V2MOM made 2017 my best year yet. While writing the plan gave me the clarity on the things I love living for, the constant reflection of my plan pushed me to develop new habits like reading daily and unplugging regularly.

Saying no becomes much easier when you define your vision of success. It gets especially easier when you're able to weigh incoming opportunities against the values you hold dear. Focus on the opportunities that bring you bliss. Ignore the ones that go against your values. You owe it to yourself.

Good luck and let me know how it goes!

Kenny

5 Ways to Be Habitually Happy in 2018 (told through TED talks)

How many people do you think committed themselves to a New Year’s resolution this first month of 2018?

I personally don’t believe in resolutions, because through my own experiences I’ve realized one thing:

Resolutions don’t work for everyone.

To me, they’re just psychological “commitment devices” that force you to punish yourself and feel bad for not achieving a goal. Resolutions ultimately make you feel out of control and stressed. I look at life by changing my overall mentality on happiness and being comfortable with change, rather than feeling forced to accomplish something.

Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve been researching the world’s leading professionals’ talks on the subject of happiness. Through various TED talks, I’ve picked five talks that completely changed my view — giving me a different outlook on not only the New Year, but also life in general.

1) Change How You See Happiness

Shawn Achor — “The Happiness Advantage: Linking Positive Brains to Performance”

In psychologist Shawn Achor’s talk, he describes how changing your view of the world can affect your ultimate happiness. He explains how, despite people who may have everything they ever wanted, they are ultimately unhappy. It’s a truly inspiring talk with a great five-step program to help you change your outlook.

Here’s the five-step program:

1. Write down three things you’re thankful for each day.
2. Journal: Write down something good that happened to you yesterday to relive the feeling.
3. Exercise: See how your wellness and behavior relaxes your brain.
4. Meditate: When you wake up and before you go to sleep, focus on one object, flow away from it, and then go back to the object.
5. Random Acts of Kindness: Send one email per day that thanks someone in your social network.

Main Point: Positivity affects productivity and creativity, so make it a habit to be thankful for life each day. You don’t need to have everything to be happy. Personally, I find that being thankful has a direct correlation with my happiness, and the small things that might upset me don’t take away from my true happiness. After doing this five-step program, I felt more relaxed and productive.

2) Don’t waste your days

Neil Pasricha — “The 3 A’s of Awesome”

Neil Pasricha, the award-winning author of the ‘1000 Awesome Things’ blog, gives you the Three A’s of Awesome that can ultimately give you a better outlook on life. From handling grief, to finding peace with your inner self, these three A’s can help anyone better distinguish themselves from the world.

The Three A’s:

1. Attitude: You can either grieve, stress, and stay put, or grieve then move on.
2. Awareness: Be aware of all the good things around you and don’t take them for granted.
3. Authenticity: Be true to yourself.

Main Point: You’ll never be this young again; so don’t waste your life on doing things that don’t make you happy. Out of all the A’s, I found that authenticity really resonated with me the most. Being comfortable can truly provide you with the best environment to stand out and impact the world. As an entrepreneur, I knew that I didn’t fit the status quo of working for others, but followed and surrounded myself with like-minded, rare individuals that motivated me to succeed. Warren Buffett’s quote of, “Tell me who your heroes are and I’ll tell you who you’ll become,” is a great representation of surrounding yourself with the right people to build the future you want.

3) Happiness is a state of being not a chase

Matthieu Ricard — “The Habits of Happiness”

Former Biologist turned monk Matthieu Ricard gives us steps in his talk to deal with ways to better control our emotions. He also includes great tips to help move away from anger.

My three favorites:

1. Look at anger outward rather than inward. Imagine it as something transparent — rather than menacing — like a cloud and it will vanish.
2. Happiness isn’t achieved; it’s a state of being. It’s how we see the world.
3. Inner conflicts are often linked with excessive looks to the past and anticipation of the future. We don’t look at the present moment we’re in to appreciate and focus.

Main Point: Working to get everything to be happy isn’t the way to go. Be happy with what you have now. Happiness is a state of being and shouldn’t be seen as a way of achievement. Being focused solely on being happy in the future can make you forget on what makes you happy now. Along with this, one needs to control their emotions besides happiness. Learning how to control your emotions you can more effectively make decisions in business and even in life. I found that when I got angry when I lost a deal or something didn’t go my way, that if I approached it with the mentality to be appreciative of all the other things going right that I can better make decisions in response or for the future.

4) Focus on the tasks at hand to be happier

Matt Killingsworth — “Want to be happier? Stay in the moment.

Matt Killingsworth invented an app that can actually track happiness. He discusses some of his research on how mind-wandering affects productivity and overall happiness.

My three favorite points:

1. When our minds wander, we often think about unpleasant things: worries, anxieties, regrets, or something neutral.
2. When focused on the present, you’re more likely to be happy.
3. Mind-wandering is frequent.

Main Point: If you focus on what you’re supposed to do, you’re going to be a lot happier. However, when your mind wanders you’re more likely to give yourself negative emotions, therefore reducing the quality of your work. Focus on the task at hand, and exercise your mind to not stray away. A good way of doing this is to handle the hardest task of your day first, as it gives you relief that everything for the rest of the day will be much easier. I find that doing this helps me focus throughout the day.

5) Find Balance between short-term and long-term pleasures

Daniel Goldstein — “The battle between your present and future self”

Psychologist Daniel Goldstein speaks out on the constant struggle of instant versus long-term gratification. Goldstein details the factors of what one needs in order to make the correct choice that satisfies both your present and future self.

Here are three points that can help you better your decisions:

1. We need to imagine ourselves more clearly in the future as products of our decisions.
2. Commitment devices have three flaws: They make us feel like we’re no longer in power; causes us to create excuses to justify the easy way; and they don’t solve the problem between present and future self.
3. We might neglect our future selves due to our lack of belief that we will get there.

Main Point: Commitment devices, like New Year’s resolutions, aren’t designed to make us happy. A long-term solution for this is building up our own self-control. Delay instant gratification for long-term gratification. This takes true understanding of your goals, but it will ultimately help you achieve the goals that truly make you happy.

Happiness is a state of being not something we can reach, so enjoy the moment and the future will be even greater. Throughout my career, I’ve always worked hard to get to bigger success, but that never let me appreciate how far we’ve actually come. These last couple weeks of watching these talks changed my overview of life.

So if you feel like you might need that type of change, I implore you to watch these talks as well. I truly believe applying these main points can help you become a better individual.

PS: If you need a ritual reminder of gratitude, check out the Five Minute Journal here. This is a great easy tool that has helped me immensely in my life on making happiness a habit.

Maximize your Day: 3 Productivity Hacks That Can Change Your Life's Output

It’s easy to get lost during the lull of the day. Duties, commitments, and obligations pile up and distract us from getting the most important things done. Procrastination eventually sets in and, soon enough, tasks end up not being done. You tell yourself you’ll get to everything one day, but a terrible lingering feeling resides within you.

That terrible feeling that results from accomplishing nothing.

This persistent thought, combined with the guilt of how millions of people throughout the world would love another day to live, was the breaking point in my life where I knew I needed focus more. Being an entrepreneur fortunate with numerous opportunities, I knew time was the scarcest resource I could never get back. I had to fight the inevitable feeling of procrastination by learning how to master its enemy: productivity.

My unofficial definition of productivity is — finding the most effective ways to create maximum outputs with minimal inputs. After trying many different methods of productivity over the last couple of years, I finally found three I could regularly commit myself to:

1. Write a To-Do List Tied to a Purpose— Writing lists is one of the greatest things ever taught to me by my father. Driving me to school everyday, my father always used to put post-it notes on his car dashboard detailing his top three tasks for the day. I grew up teasing him on why he needed notes to remind himself of what to do. I was stupid then, to realize how distracting days could be in the adult world and how simple reminders can save the day. Fast-forward to today and I can’t help but write down my top daily tasks. I would be a mess, burning myself out with menial tasks and reducing my effectiveness as a leader. If there’s anything I really recommend to become more productive it’s this:

• Write down your top three tasks for the day, with the task requiring the most brainpower being first. I’m a firm believer that high brainpower and intellectual decisions become more difficult as the day progresses. Tackle the hardest things first, and don’t check that email until you have done so.
• If you’re not into handwritten post-its, certain apps like Evernote and Wunderlist are great ways to help keep you on task.
• To keep you away from temptation while on the computer, apps like Self Control can “blacklist” select websites for a certain duration of time, motivating you to work on the task at hand. And yes, the app still works even if you close it. It’s productivity fighting temptation at its finest.
• I find it helpful to tie my to-do list with a singular purpose for the day. That way my to-do list has meaning. Basically, even if I don't hit all my tasks on my to-do list, as long as I hit my purpose I will feel fulfilled.

2. Schedule Downtime — Finding time to relax is crucial in order to maintain your happiness and celebrate your wins. Now, of course, everything in excess can be a bad thing, but it’s important to always find a time to wind down and enjoy the fruits of your labor. After all, true work should be a passion, not an eventual burn out. Promise yourself a trip after achieving certain goals and stick to it.

• Get unplugged and forget the digital devices. Have a trip or day where you can relax without worrying of any obligations. This might seem counter intuitive from my last point, but it’s good to just relax and enjoy yourself sometimes. I remember while I was on a speaking circuit a couple years ago, my phone died while touring the city. Having visited 15 different cities, eventual wear and tear and overall tiredness was starting to take its toll on me. Being unplugged, unreachable, and away — even just for three hours — was an amazing recharge to enjoy myself without any obligations. I now make an effort to stay unplugged for a full day during my trips in order to recharge.
• As previously mentioned, apps like Self Control helps you fight the temptation to check emails during these wind down trips. Use this time visiting new places and meeting new people.

3. Make a Routine — One of my favorite books of all time is The Rockefeller Habits by Verne Harnish. In it, Harnish states the three things in a business that can accelerate its growth: Rhythm, Data, and Priorities. I believe this works in your personal life as well.

• Rhythm: Have an established daily routine to get your day started. Make it the best of habits. My recent routines have been working out, meditating, and writing down three things I am grateful for in my Five Minute Journal first thing in the morning. These have become my morning rituals and have overall enhanced the tone of my day. In turn, my productivity and effectiveness skyrocket compared to a day where I start by doing nothing.
• Data: Remember, your successes are basically a multitude of great decisions and your failures are made up multiple mistakes that weren't fixed immediately. I recommend you to write the things that that contributes to your successes and failures, and then pick the common habits that you’re in control of that led to both. Identify what you can replicate to maximize reaching your goals and reduce what leads you away from them. For me, breaking down or identifying goals I didn’t successfully reach, helps me to prevent future bad habits or mistakes from developing and ultimately turning into a failure.
• Priorities: Have your routines contribute to your higher goals. For example, when I do three-month goals I make sure my daily priorities all contribute to what I want to reach. For example, my current goal is to finish 2 books every three months, so I break down an approximate amount of pages I would have to read every night to meet that goal (I follow the SMART goal principle for all my goals: specific, measurable, attainable, realistic, and time-sensitive).
• A good way to keep in check for your goals, is to put a list of your goals on somewhere you go every morning. For example, I personally keep a list of my goals on the wall of my bathroom. This keeps me motivated every morning on the task at hand.

It’s important, no matter what you do, to remember one key thing- Today only comes once and it’s your responsibility not to waste it. Give your day respect, as everyday truly is an opportunity to move forward toward something greater. I can proudly say that after making these practices part of my daily routine, I’ve found greater success in my career and personal life. I hope you can too.

As always, thanks for reading, and feel free to leave any thoughts, comments, or questions on how you best manage your own productivity.

12 Life Philosophies Extraordinary People Share

Over my years in entrepreneurship, I’m proud to say that I’ve met some amazing people. From brilliant young success stories, to iconic industry leaders (many through organizations like YEC, Kairos Society, EO, or CEO), I’ve made it a frequent mission to pick the minds of extraordinary people that stood out from the rest, regardless of their industry. Asking questions to mentors and successful people like, “how do you handle failure,” or “how do manage your day,” became routine, as it always provided me with unique and remarkable answers to reflect upon. For years, I absorbed these answers and applied them to my life and my business. It wasn’t until later — when I began writing down these answers — that I realized something:

Extraordinary people share similar ideals and philosophies.

Well, duh. I should’ve realized that sooner.

I realized these individuals lived by twelve similar philosophies that constantly reminded themselves to grow, no matter their age. Their limits of the human mind ultimately differed from the status quo and it showed by the way they lived their lives. These people made extraordinary a part of their daily routine and it is truly an inspiration.

So to share their success, here are twelve similar philosophies extraordinary people share:

1) Extraordinary people make the most out of their days.

Make the most out of your day as if it’s your last. Instead of saying “tomorrow”, say “today”. My dad always told me to not drag my feet in the morning, as it can form the tone of my entire day. After years and years of him telling me this, it finally hit me when I noticed my overall efficiency to get work done from a slow morning, versus a motivated morning. Wake up and remind yourself that you’ll only get one of these days you’re living. It’s a present from up above and, one day, you’ll wish you’d get another. That should put things into perspective on what’s important.

“If you live each day as it was your last, someday you’ll most certainly be right” — Steve Jobs

2) Extraordinary people have a unique sense of gratitude toward the world.

When you’re feeling upset, remind yourself to be thankful for all the things you have that others may not. Although you may be frustrated, look at the true scope of the problem. I recently learned in the past year to write down all the things I am grateful for. When I get upset, I just look at my list (I keep everything on my phone). Doing this seemingly easy activity has really helped me take a step back on my problem and analyze if I am reacting like I should be. Ultimately, I’ve become much more of a relaxed person and can handle problems much more efficiently.

“Whenever you feel like criticizing anyone… just remember that all the people in this world haven’t had the advantages that you’ve had.” ― F. Scott Fitzgerald

3) Extraordinary people often step outside of their comfort zone.

If you’re always doing the same things, you’ll always get the same result. When you see an opportunity to do something that can let yourself grow, think hard. Would you want to look back five years later and think what could have been? Never underestimate the opportunities you’re given to grow. From learning how to dance (used to be my fear; took salsa lessons to fight it) to speaking in front of a crowd of 500 (used to be my fear; I do this for a living now at speaking), stepping outside your comfort zone can make your life more meaningful and fun as you discover yourself.

“As long as you’re uncomfortable, you’re growing.” — Ashton Kutcher

4) Extraordinary people do not copy others; they focus on building themselves to be the best they can be.

Do not worry about others that may compete against you to the point you mimic their every action. This will only get you their results. Strive to be greater than that. Strive to be everything you can be while not using others as a limit for your success. While running ThreeSixtyEight, I am very aware of what my competition is doing, but I by no means have a strong rush to copy them. Rather, our approach is to listen to our clients and constantly find ways to better serve them. We should always set the limit on how great we can be.

“Be so good they can’t ignore you” — Steve Martin

5) Extraordinary people have a great sense of self.

In the first year of building the company I always tried to find ways to gain recognition through press and media opportunities (we used the college startup story quite a bit). What this did was build up a ridiculous amount of hype for my last startup Big Fish Presentations. This was unfortunate as we didn’t have the right team at the time and could never fully deliver the work we said we could do for our largest client at the time. This was the ultimate lesson of humility and helped me develop a sense of my own capabilities.

The key lesson of this is that if you say something, you better know how to back it up. Knowing who you are and your capabilities is essential to becoming great. Most people spend their lives trying to get recognition of other people and silencing the critics, but that comes naturally from knowing and applying what you’re great at. Instead of trying to please everyone else, make sure you’re happy with who you are first.

After all, no one but you has to listen and answer to yourself.

“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we make peace with ourselves.” ― Dalai Lama XIV

6) Extraordinary people are masters of their emotion.

People can only make you feel bad if you let them. Knowing this is a key driver to your overall success, happiness, and decisions. While I’m not perfect at it, it was only recently that I learned to better grasp my emotions, I need to see my emotions on a macro and micro level.

The best tip I can give for managing emotions is to not jump on a problem hot headed. Look at your anger as a whole before responding. Is it really worth that much of your emotion? You can better make a call when thinking logically rather than emotionally. Doing exercises that allowed me to relax during times I was frustrated has led me to make better decisions in anything that I do: in life, love, and career. Easier said than done, I know, but it takes practice.

“A man who is master of himself can end a sorrow as easily as he can invent a pleasure.” — Oscar Wilde

7) Extraordinary people keep fighting.

A great motivation for myself to get back up is the story of my father’s initial years in America [that's him above]. At age 16, he was shipped off to America during the Vietnam War. With no understanding of the English language, my father was forced to adapt to his new country.

At age 18, he became solely responsible for shipping off money to Vietnam to get his other siblings and parents into America. To do so, he got three jobs while paying for college. Yet, somehow, he made honor roll all four years of college.

At age 20, his mother passed away right before she came to America. This devastated him, as she was the reason he was in America. Initially, my father refused to leave my grandmother’s side. Seeing as time was running out, my grandmother had to do the hardest thing a mother could do.

On the day the boat to America was leaving, his mother told him to go to the boat pier with all the deportees and she would meet him there. She never showed. She tricked him and my father was pushed on board against his will by the crowd of people rushing to get onboard. That was the last act of love he remembers of her: giving up her son for his better future.

Rather than taking all these problems and letting them weigh him down, my father kept going and never gave up his mother’s wish for his own better future. Fast-forward to today and my father is a successful businessman, family man, and role model for the Vietnamese community. I never had to go through any of these problems. My father’s story of how he fought back at life is truly a great inspiration for anybody to put up their fists at any challenge life throws at them. It’s your choice to keep getting hit or to start fighting back. We all have hardships. It’s human and gives us an opportunity to grow.

“Fall down seven times, get up eight.” — Japanese Proverb

8) Extraordinary people are able to focus on what’s in front of them.

It’s very easy to get distracted. With easy access to so many digital networks such as Facebook and Reddit (a frequent site visited at our agency), it can be a challenge to stay focused. My advice is to do the hardest thing first every day, while writing your goals down in front of you to remind you of your priorities (for more productivity advice see here). In my early days, it was a morning ritual of mine to check Facebook (I do it still sometimes), but today, I always do my best to get out of bed and meditate at the beginning of my day. This changes the outlook of my day and my overall efficiency on handling that difficult first task. With some great practice, focus will become a habit that’s essential to your success.

“The successful warrior is the average man, with laser-like focus.” — Bruce Lee

9) Extraordinary people surround themselves with extraordinary people.

It’s easy to explain the common saying that your “network equals your net worth.” Looking at it outside of a business perspective, you can think that your net worth is your sense of self and who you are. Classic example is how my life turned out.

During my high school years, I didn’t do too many things I was proud of. I caused my parents a lot of stress. It wasn’t until after my high school graduation that my father said something I’ll never forget.

“You can’t even bring home one piece of recognition to make us proud?”

Ouch. That stung. But it was exactly the motivating factor I needed to evaluate my life choices and network. Long story short, I left the country to relax my mind and came back refreshed, breaking apart my friendships with everyone that influenced my negative line of actions. Selfish as it was, it was the best thing I have ever done.

Today, I surround myself with great people that influence me to be greater, and in return, I hope I influence them to be greater. It really is true that when you surround yourself with greatness, you yourself can great.

“Tell me who your heroes are and I’ll tell you who you’ll become.” — Warren Buffett

10) Extraordinary people understand why they do what they do.

Understanding why we do what we do is essential to the morale of our lives. At ThreeSixtyEight, we make it a big point for everyone to understand their purpose. Doing this greatly increases the morale when we get great customer feedback and keeps us together when overcoming challenges. We want to fulfill our greater purpose and invest emotionally into our work.

The key to figuring out your purpose is remembering what you’re here for and to not settle until you know. Don’t be afraid to keep asking questions until you figure out why you work so hard on what you do. Because once you figure out why, your work will become much more meaningful and better.

Bonus Motivator: Simon Sinek’s TED talk on starting with why.

“Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal; nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude.” — Thomas Jefferson

11) Extraordinary people are naturally curious.

While traveling, I make an effort to immerse myself to learn anything new from the local culture I am visiting (I actually learned how to make a awesome lobster dish in Vietnam). Being able to see the world and adapt to its environments, allows me to keep my mind young and refreshed for new ideas. Never stop learning. Always make efforts to learn something new, whether it’s from books, travel, or even conversations with random strangers. You are only as young as your mind tells you.

“Live as if you were to die tomorrow. Learn as if you were to live forever.”― Mahatma Gandhi

12) Extraordinary People ignore the critics.

Everyone has critics. Despite winning awards, receiving national recognition, and working with huge companies, we still get our share of critics. Lessons to handle criticism? Listen to the people that matter. In a business aspect, it’s our clients. People that DESERVE a voice in our actions and future. As long as we can serve their needs and find greater ways to serve our existing and new clientele, we’ll always be on the right track. From a personal aspect, it’s learning the harsh reality that someone will always criticize your actions no matter what you do. The higher you succeed, the more your network’s true colors will show. Whether it’s jealousy or motivation, listen to those you know will tell you what you NEED to hear rather than what you WANT to hear, and you’ll find the greatest support network anyone can ask for.

“Don’t pay any attention to the critics — don’t even ignore them.” — Samuel Goldwyn

Throughout my roller coaster years of entrepreneurship, I’ve applied these philosophies to grow myself, and I’m confident you can too. I can personally guarantee that with a little bit of mental practice, these philosophies can help you develop winning habits in your life.

My most helpful tip is for anyone hoping to change their mindset, to catch themselves during times of temptation.

Other personal suggestions are:

• Remember that your short-term goals might not benefit your long-term goals.
• Don’t be afraid of asking questions.
• Always ask yourself if you can learn something from a new experience constructively.

So thanks for reading this long post. While it’s long, I made sure to give as much examples to help anyone change their mindset.

So what are you waiting for?

Go out and be extraordinary.